There is an unfortunate element that preys on young girls interested in dating older men, so you will need to be careful and not share too much personal information at first. When you are dating older men, never provide more information than you are comfortable with and always make sure you check to make sure that while you are dating older men that they are telling you the truth about any relationships they might have. Too many women dating older men find out that they are married and this can ruin anyone’s relationship.
That’s not to say that there aren’t plenty of wonderful guys out there for women interested in dating older men. Just be careful and look for the right one. Chances are, if you are into dating older men, you should be able to find just the perfect match.
It is a known fact that women are attracted to older men. When I say older, I don't necessarily mean that a twenty-five year old will date a man who's seventy-three. What I'm saying is that relative to their own age, women, in general, will date men that are a few years older than themselves. So if a woman is twenty, she'll date a man in his thirties. If she's thirty, she'll probably date a man in his forties and so on. Why is it that women behave in such a way?
The following passage from "How to Date Young Women" by R. Don Steele best explains it:
"She is primarily interested in getting a husband-to-be on the hook. It takes her a year of going steady to feel she has got him under control."
Once this is accomplished, she wants to see what she has been missing. She goes dancing and partying with "the girls" where she practices interacting with new boys and young men. After a few months, she's ready again. Her experimentation begins with another boy, her naive version of an affair. She enjoys the excitement of getting away with something so she finds one Randy Red Porsche, a singles' bar professional. He hooks up with her on Thursday nights when she's "out with the girls" and on Monday nights when Jimmy's "out with the boys."
When Jimmy finds out, he breaks up with her. But soon Red Porsche gets bored and trashes her. She begs Jimmy to take her back. He does. Each claims to have discovered how much they really love each other after four weeks apart. They prove it by exchanging wedding vows. In reality, they're both terrified of the single world.
If Jimmy won't take her back, she tries a brief but uninspired crack at single life. After getting screwed literally and figuratively by one user after another...she becomes as plastic as the rest and starts hanging out in pick-up bars.
Of course, after realizing that the world is not as rosy as it seems, she soon appreciates the maturity of an older man. This is where we come along.
Most women will admit that they want a strong man who can stand his own ground and be confident. Back in the day, this meant an egg fertilizer with blessed genetics who could hunt to feed his family while protecting them from predators.
Of course, today we live in a more civilized society. Women no longer need a mate, hunter or protector (they now have sperm clinics, supermarkets and police officers to do that). But because of her upbringing, a woman still expects a man to provide for his family. She now expects her man to be mature and provide financial stability along with long-term security.
Fertilizing her eggs is no longer enough to satisfy a woman. The Romantic Era and current television soap operas have inspired women to seek out men who have the sexual experience to enlighten the consummate. Women want men who have more than just oral sex on their minds; they want men who know every single sensual spot on (and in) their bodies, and who take the time to explore them thoroughly.
All these traits can be found in most men that are eighteen or over. But more often than not, women will associate older men with the capability of providing all the aforementioned traits. The only thing older men need to do is seduce them.
What would a 28-year-old want in a man old enough to be her father?
Few young women seek soul mates who are twice as old as they are. Most of us seek a spouse whose experiences, lifestyle and expectations are similar to and compatible with our own. Frankly, it's hard to find such a "match" when a dating partner comes from another generation (yes, you are from a different generation than the women who interest you), and that's why most adults limit the scope of their search to a partner who is close to their own age.
Most young women who are attracted to older men seek surrogate father figures, maturity to balance their own insecurity, or someone with the means and inclination to be a "sugar daddy." Many marriages between a younger woman and older man are loving and successful. However, couples with a 20- to 25-year age gap are a rarity; it is difficult to sustain a long-term relationship when each party's goals are very different. The younger woman may expect to complete her education, solidify her ambitions, build a career, and eventually raise a family. The older man is no longer interested in investing time and energy into building his life; he's already done so and now wants to reap what he has sown. And if he does want a family, he surely won't want to delay fatherhood.
Even if the couple is able to fashion a mutually agreeable lifestyle, they may face an additional challenge as the woman matures and gains self-confidence, because this might upset the balance between them as she becomes more assertive.
If a woman gravitates to a well-off, older man because of the material advantages he can provide, she may not form an emotionally intimate bond with her husband. This type of marriage is vulnerable to any number of stresses, and may dissolve after the novelty wears off.
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