Relationship Advice

Relationships are entered into for a variety of reasons and to fulfill various needs we have as human beings.

About the Emotional Cost - Advice to Lower Your Emotional Costs in Relationships:

Pursue people who have good stress tolerance and coping skills. - People who can handle stresses will free you from fulfilling those needs. You are only needed when a extreme stressor occurs, lowering your emotional cost.
Pursue people who are similar to you. - This is only true if you like yourself. If you hate yourself, find someone who will treat you like shit and opposite of you.
Learn good communication and conflict resolution skills. - Usually every relationship will experience conflicts. Learn how to argue correctly and make up after every conflict. If you and your lover argue incorrectly, you may be attacking each other's self-esteem building resentment in the relationship and eventually placing the relationship at risk of breaking up.
Avoid pursuing people with emotional problems. - People who have emotional problems will cause you grief. When they are depressed, they will make you depressed. When they are stressed, they will stress you out.

Advice to Fulfill Primary Needs of Love Interest

Be a sugar mama. - Become wealthy and offer to pay love interest's rent, car payments, and other bills.
If you can afford it, pay for everything and try to buy love. - However, you have to provide for all the other needs to insure that your love interest really loves you not only for your money. Otherwise, your love interest may use you to fulfill their primary needs and use someone who is poorer than you to fulfill their other needs.

Relationship Advice About Sexual Needs

Have sex with love interest as soon as possible. (Assuming you are good in bed)
If you are talented in bed, then you can make your love interest hooked on sex. Sex addicts, like crack addicts, will often not leave you. To avoid being hooked, avoid having sex until you find your soulmate.
Be a great lover and get love interest hooked.
It is important to communicate your sexual needs clearly. If you are a horn dog and your lover is not, your relationship may not last. Relationship Advice to Fulfill Sexual Needs Alone. Buy yourself a purity or chastity ring and vow to be celibate until marriage at a Christian rally. Become a born-again virgin.
Abstinence is a very good. Abstaining from premarital sex keeps you objective in your research and prevents you from confusing sex and love. Sleeping with your research subject will bias your data and your judgment about your lover. You will want to prolong your dysfunctional relationship because you enjoy the sex too much to breakup. Also by abstaining from sex, you make sure your lover loves you for other important reasons than sex. You can also escape a bad relationship easier.
Find another addiction to replace sex - crack, heroin, money, power, or winning.
Other addictions provide the same or higher level of pleasures than sex.
Take cold showers or resort to self-gratification.
A very popular option. Go back down to your basement and enjoy your porno DVDs.
Pursue people who are horny and offer sex for free. Be a slut. (Note: both males and females can be sluts) There are many who will have sex with you no matter how unattractive you are.
Hire a male prostitute. A very popular option, but can easily become very expensive.

Relationship Advice to Fulfill Esteem Needs of Lover Interest

Compliment your love interest often. - One of the main benefits of having a lover is to have someone to support you when you feel worthless or bad about yourself. One of the primary jobs of a lover is to support your self-esteem by reminding you what a incredible and wonderful person when others have beaten you down or when your dreams come crashing down on you. It does not matter if the world thinks you are boring and worthless because your lover thinks you are the most exciting and special person on this earth. This strategy only works when your love interest has good self-esteem. If your love interest has low self-esteem, complimenting them may not fulfill their esteem needs. Verbally abusing them may fulfill their self-esteem, because your abuse validates their image of themselves. This is why some people are attracted to people who treat them like shit.
Support love interest's dreams and encourage him to take risk. - Be there when he/she fails. This advice relates to the one above. If you are not supportive of your lover's dreams and not willing to take on risk, your lover may leave you when they finally become successful. Be supportive of your ambitious lover, keep detailed record of your contribution in your relationship, and familiarize yourself with divorce or common law marriage laws. This way, you will be compensated for your support in case your lover becomes successful and leaves you. However, most likely, your lover will be grateful for your support through their darkest hour, strengthening their love for you.

Relationship Advice to Fulfill Esteem Needs Alone

Focus on having a fulfilling career. - If you have a kick-ass career that challenges you and maximize all your talents and skills, you most likely would feel really good about yourself. Because you love your career more than your competitors, you most likely are paid very well for your work. A career can be a good substitute for a real lover.
Choose a small goal and reach it. - Big goals are made of little goals. By reaching a series of small goals, a bigger goal could be reach. Also, as each small goal is reached, your confidence in your ability to reach bigger goals increases.
Help others. - If you can help others achieve their goals, you would reinforce your confidence and increase your self-worth. Your existence has meaning and you are playing an important role in this life. Society values people who are compassionate and generous increasing your social prestige. By demonstrating to others that you can fulfill their needs, others will see you as more attractive because they know you have already learned to fulfill your own.